Since they are asking me I know that means they have been to my website or read one of my articles and are looking for someone who will recognize and validate their trauma while not labeling them a “co-sex addict.” Helping people find good therapists could become a full time job for me.
But it also makes a man able to look at pornography without thinking about how it may hurt you or his marriage.
So does that mean there is no hope in finding a good counselor to help a woman whose world has been turned upside down by the discovery of her husband’s pornography or sexual addiction? But it may prove to be more challenging than it should be.
Below are some tips I hope you will find helpful in finding a counselor who will offer you the validation and guidance you need and deserve. Read the book, Your Sexually Addicted Spouse, by Barbara Steffens and Marsha Means.
I specialize in counseling wives of sex addicts, and I often see women who haven’t told anyone about their husband’s addiction, sometimes for months or even years.
The lack of support available to spouses, and often inaccurate information being put out about partners of sexual addicts, can cause a wife to suffer additional trauma and feel like she is partially responsible for her husband’s behavior.